Sunday, April 14, 2013

Tight Left, Wide Right

Yes, we are learning to drive in South Africa!  And our mantra for making turns is "tight left, wide right."  Staying on the left side of the road has proven to be the easier part.  More challenging is recognizing that taxis (actually minibuses, which are everywhere) will make 1-2 lanes where they do not exist, run red lights, speed on ancillary roads, and go slow on the highway.  Driving is an adventure here!

We're so glad the primary language is English (though a different English than our ears are familiar with) and that the people are super warm and friendly.  Still there are adjustments every day:  Get to bed earlier since the day begins around 5am.  Accept that we may have days in a row when the internet is not working (and therefore no email and no VOIP phone...sorry to those of you who have also found this frustrating!).  "Brown" sugar is not "brown sugar."  And no electricity in the bathroom means Michele was very grateful yesterday when Jeff bought an extension cord so she can blowdry her hair in front of a mirror again!

The days have been jam-packed since we last wrote!

Kate has made a new friend named Kate, also an expat!  She is a church friend
and neighbor!  
Kate, Kate & Kate's little sister at neighborhood Easter egg hunt

Kate continues to love school!  She can shed her shoes as soon as she's on the grounds and she loves the chickens and rabbits running around.  She is in a class of six boys and holds her own.  You can picture that, can't you?

John started 8th grade (high school, oh my!) at Dainfern College 
http://www.dainferncollege.co.za
Downside:  uniforms required.  UPSIDE:  digital tablets required!  This is a photo from leadership week when the G8's hosted preschoolers from a local creche:

We received our boat shipment on April 4!  It was by far the best unpack we've ever had.  I was amazed that without written instructions, Khulumbani and his team could put together every bed and bookshelf--their boss says it doesn't matter if it was made in Germany or Finland or China or US--"they are just clever."  When the movers left after two days, more than half our stuff was already where it was supposed to be.  Yipee!!

We go to church with the Sixishe (the "x" is a tongue click) family.  Their three daughters came for a visit last week and regaled us with stories of their time at Queens College in the Eastern Cape.  We laughed for three hours straight!
 Michele, Sipetile, Alu, and Pumza

South Africans say we had the unusual good fortune of getting several items working at our rental house already:  garage door, security system, cellular repeater box.  However, we're still waiting for our landline to be repaired and trying to get Michele added to the local bank account has proven to take much longer than initially forecast.  Also, Jeff is still experiencing the painful process of registering the car he bought.  Here he is with Lulu Von Merveldt, our awesome relocation specialist, heading out yet another time to the driver's licensing center.
We have learned that when people say something will happen that day, it means something else.
...Ah well, it's Africa, as they say!

A family from church, the Klintworths, invited us over Thursday after school.  They live on a big country estate in the town of Kyalami.  They have 5 horses, 3 dogs, 1 cat, a pond, cricket pitch, large putting green, stables, house, 5 kids and 2 grandparents!  We had so much fun!  Their daughter Rebecca is Kate's age and sons Kyle and Angus are just a little older and a little younger than John.

So to wrap up this post:  YES!  We are learning to drive in South Africa!  And the best way to learn is by experience.  So here's a story:

(Michele) I was driving John to school on Tuesday.  It's only 4.5km away BUT we have to get on William Nicol Parkway (main artery into Joburg) which is currently undergoing construction and is sometimes down to just one lane.  Cars sit bumper to bumper in the mornings.  Taxis pull off onto the dirt walking paths (sometimes 2-deep) and speedily bump down them then pull in front of people waiting to turn.

Such was the case on Tuesday.  I was sitting at the intersection of Peter Wenning Street and William Nicol waiting to turn left as soon as the 2 taxis wedged in front of me were able to merge onto Wm Nic.  And bump!  The car behind me simply ran into me.  I looked in the rearview mirror and saw a mom and her little boy and thought, "they're probably headed to Dainfern too!"  Actually, she is a teacher at Dainfern!  Her car sustained a lot of damage to the front end, but my car looked unharmed!

Nevertheless, this event made me late for "coffee" with the parent rep (Alice) from Dainfern.  She and several other moms hosted Mavis, a Brit named Stella, and me at a cafe near the school.  As Alice came  to the school to pick me up, she rushed toward me and gave me a big hug and kiss on the cheek.  At that, I burst into tears!  It was the first time I've cried since getting here and I think the morning's challenges and her kindness created the perfect storm so I could let it all out!  She was so great and told me she cried through her whole first meeting with her parent rep when she moved here 2.5 years ago.  I managed to pull myself together by the time we reached the cafe and had lots of laughs and got loads of helpful information from the other moms there.

I spent the rest of the day trying to deal with the accident.  Because I was driving the GE car, I had to file a claim.  That seems like it should be a straightforward process, but see paragraph 9 above.  

Also, I needed to file a police report within 24 hours and fortunately our wonderful au pair Caryn (who deserves an entire post all for herself and will get one soon!) knew where a police station was and accompanied me.  Picture an open air, small office with officers standing at a counter calling upon a free-form line of people.  Picture through the open door behind the counter:  jail cells opening into a courtyard.   I sat down with a nice constable who filled out a 4-page form by hand (flashback to Russia!).  Fortunately, the women at breakfast had told me to bring the requisite black pen!  Kate enjoyed watching the comings and goings and made friends with everyone waiting in the que.  It was actually a much more pleasant experience than I expected it would be!  ...And look at all I learned that day.  First on the list:  I am very fortunate to even have my own car!

(Some important things to note in photo above:  No damage visible on bumper.  Even if I never tow anything, I now understand how good it is to have a hitch here.  And the "L" for "Learner" decal was given to me by my driving instructor who said it will keep other drivers a few extra meters away from my bumper.  Haha!  
Guess we saw how well that worked!)

That morning, I had received an SMS from Jeanine Haskell at church.  She said she was bringing dinner that night.  When she arrived at the door, it was late and I had just returned from the police station.  When I saw her there, I burst into tears again.  I said "it's been a hard day."  She said "I just had a prompting this morning that I should bring you this food."  She had no idea about anything that had happened, but God did.  He knew I would need help and He knew she would listen and provide it.  It was a tender moment for both of us.  

That is what I know.  We are known to God and He is watching over us!  
Until next time--Tight Left, Wide Right!  Love, Michele






Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Our First Game Drive!



For the long Easter weekend, our family went to the Kwa-Maritane Bush Lodge in Pilanesburg National Park.  We had an amazing experience!
This is a video Jeff and Kate made for her 2nd grade class back in Utah, and we thought you might like to see it as well.  (The students each studied a particular African animal in February/March, thus the references in the video).
This is just a little preview for the folks who might come visit us (hint, hint!).  

Love, the Stitts


Click link below:

(Link to the park website:  Pilanesberg web site)

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

From Alpine, Utah, USA to Sandton, Guateng, SA

Hello dear everyone!  We are getting settled in our new home in Africa and very much enjoying it!  Though we miss all our U.S. friends, we appreciate the well wishes we've received from you!

Now that we finally have internet capability at our house, we can send this brief photo recap of the past 2 whirlwind weeks...

Mar 12...Jeff returned to Alpine!!!
Mar 15...We bid fond farewell to wonderful friends at an open house hosted by Melanie and Kathleen


 Mar 16...We enjoyed a beautiful dinner with Michele's parents at The Roof Restaurant in 
Salt Lake City


Mar 17...We celebrated St. Patrick's Day with the Barlows


Mar 18...Last Utah LeMon family dinner "until we meet again"


Mar 21...Said goodbye to fabulous schools, Ivy Hall Academy (Kate) and Mountain Ridge Junior High (John), and fabulous friends and teachers




Mar 22...After a sleepless night, we were shuttled to SLC International Airport at 4:30am.

Somewhere between Mar 22 & 23...Kate and John made friends in "high" places.



As you can tell, John wouldn't mind one of these business elite seats in his bedroom!


Mar 23 (at least that's what the calendar said)...We arrived at OR Tambo International Airport at 4:30pm.  Here is our awesome driver, Steven, helping us with our NINETEEN pieces of luggage.


This is our new home!



Mar 24...We attended the Fourways Ward.  John was warmly welcomed by the three young men in attendance.  Kate was happy to become reacquainted with her friend Nomthi who we met in October.  I recorded each of our impressions after 24 hours in SA:
  • Jeff:  "Africa is so much better with my family here."
  • Michele:  "I don't remember moving before and feeling so peaceful about it so quickly."
  • John: "Africa is cooler than I even thought it would be."
  • Kate: "I like the echo of the house, the playset at the park, and the pool in the backyard."
After church, we walked in the park behind our house and checked out the bird sanctuary.


Mar 25...John tested for Dainfern College (aced it btw, so will start 8th grade here once his SA study permit is approved) and Kate began her trial week of school at North Sands Academy.  ...All of this while overcoming some significant jetlag.  What troopers!  


...We are so happy to be here!  We love our new home and all the people we've met.  Kate has learned that her tennis shoes are "takkies" and is already trying out a new accent.  John has settled into his new room which he calls The Secret Sanctuary and can easily discern the call of the Hadada Ibis.  Jeff truly loves his job.  And I am so happy to feel warmth and moisture in the air, to sit on the veranda and enjoy the garden, and to have my family all in one place again!  We feel truly blessed!!

Sending much love and gratitude for your friendship, Michele



Friday, March 8, 2013

One picture from Luanda

I'm posting a picture I took in Luanda, Angola from my hotel room, because I felt that it highlighted much of the contradictions and conflict that I see in my travels.

In the upper left hand corner, appropriately behind everything else, are all the ships in the oil fields. Although they look peaceful, this is the source of much conflict in Angola, and across the region. I heard, although cannot confirm, that oil was what allowed the government to defeat the rebels in the 38 year civil war. Another contradiction is with the beautiful palm trees that dot the shoreline of the beautiful beaches here.

I was also struck by the cranes that dot the skyline, especially across the top of the picture, with the hopeful feel of growth and support and by the contrast to the slums you see lower center. The slums are everywhere, and everything is so expensive. A 0.5 liter bottle of water was $13 US Dollars! A cheeseburger and fries, $45.00. So much wealth and growth, and so much squalor.

I was also struck by the disparity, and by the DeBeers building (center left). Here is a sign you won't see in the US as it's a cartel that is openly manipulating the diamond markets, including blood diamonds that fuel so much conflict in the region - an open symbol of corruption in my mind.

What other contrasts do you see?


I am a bit behind and owe a post from my last trip to Nairobi and Accra. I'm headed back to the states this week and will pick up my family and then we all come back to ZA!

Hope all is well
Jeff



Sunday, February 10, 2013

Technical Difficulties

Hey everyone, when I posted Jeff's writeup and photos, everything looked good.  An hour later, the photos were gone and I have no idea why!  I've tried to add photos back where I can.  Sorry about that!

Africa Contingent Update


Early Adventures in Africa
by Jeff

Well, I've had some great times so far...I've arrived in Africa, located a home, our church, a bank account (they charge for EVERYTHING here, including if you make a deposit - I don't think I will complain about Citi again!), a car, a laundry AND done some actual work for my new job...not too bad for a short time on the ground.  Oh yeah, and remind me to tell you about the Angolan visa process sometime.

Then, since things were getting a little routine, I decided to go to Nigeria.  I started off in Lagos on Sunday and part of Monday, packed up and went to Port Harcourt on the Niger Delta for 2 days of meetings, and back to Lagos for a day.  Then I caught the red eye home (which is now Joburg, South Africa).

Nigeria is really cool.  It has a sense of energy and optimism that is unbelievable.  But it is a little more difficult to travel in.  I've got some pictures to share.

     I flew from Lagos to Port Harcourt on Arik Air, which is a bit like Southwest, complete with a free full-body frisk as you head up the steps to the plane.  

This is the Port Harcourt INTERNATIONAL Airport

Arrival & baggage claim

     Ok, so I've never waited in a baggage claim TENT but it was very cool!  There is amazing growth in Port Harcourt.  I was speaking with a Nigerian about the massive shifts in the economy over the last decade that are driving some of the changes from an agrarian lifestyle to a fully industrialized one.  It's interesting to observe.  People are very friendly and like to talk and exchange pleasantries as well.  I really enjoyed my visit.

     Another very interesting item for me was the security.  My company likes to keep folks safe, and so I had police escort and lots of guards.  I felt a bit disconcerted, but also, what guy doesn't occasionally dream of having a full security detail?
    
     Finally, I just wanted to let you know that Nigeria won their semi-final match against Mali today:
 4 to 1!  (Shout out for Brian J.) and are in the Africa Cup Finals.


Utah Contingent Update

So, Jeff left for Africa 3 weeks ago.  Here are a few things we've been up to while he's been gone...

Kate--skiing every Monday at Sundance with her school and Courage Reins
horseback riding

John--Oquirrh Mountain Temple w/Corbin & Kayden and "test driving" a SmartCar 

 Michele--"Africa Night" with my awesome book club and reconnecting with Breeann and Desiree whom I worked with 20 years ago in Milwaukee when they were in the 12-14 year old class at church!

All with the backdrop of more snow than we've ever seen since moving to Utah!

...3 weeks down and 5 to go till we're all together as a family again.  Yeah!!